Monday, February 11, 2013

Diets, Derrieres, Decisions. . .

Absolutely nothing is being insinuated here, sort of. . .
          Most of us probably know the "10 Rule": 10 pounds on the bottom for 10 years on the face, or as one of my best friends likes to joke, it's either les fesses or la face. In France we're talking about five kilos (2.2 pounds for one kilo) on the bottom to deliver 10 years of non-invasive youth to the face.

          OK, let's be brutal. It's a question of where one wants her fat distributed or what compromises one is willing to make when confronted with the dilemma.

How about a nice pair of Spanx to lift and support these cheeks so we can leave the other pair in peace?
          Many Frenchwomen, it seems to me, choose their derrieres over their faces, in other words many let their faces get very thin to keep their bottom as close to the one they've worked hard to hold onto for decades. It's a choice, a tough call.

         Recently I interviewed one of the rock stars of plastic surgery who told me, "fat equals youth." He was, of course, talking about the face. Many of his patients syphon-off fat from other parts of their bodies (maybe their derrieres) to inject in their faces to give them  back some of that baby plumpness in the cheek area. Like lots of other body parts, even those cheeks start to head south.

         While we were on the subject of saving face, he said he admired French women because they understand "balance" in most areas of their lives. They tend not to be yo-yo dieters, he said, which means their faces are not constantly being stretched in and out. (I'm paraphrasing.) But he did add that being too thin is not a good thing.

Don't you sometimes wish everyone would just leave us alone?
         So, where do you stand on the Big Question? 

29 comments:

Déjà Pseu said...

I'm close to my goal weight, which is 10 lbs higher than it would have been a couple of decades ago for exactly this reason. I don't want to start looking scrawny in the face even if it means a smaller waistline.

I'm a religious user of Retin-A (thanks, Tish!!) and sunscreen, and hope that will help mitigate some of the facial fat loss.

(I don't know if this is a factor too, but for so many French women, having smoked at some point in their lives probably contributes to a more aged appearance.)

Pam @ over50feeling40 said...

I need to lose weight, but I do not want it to show in my face...so I think I will watch it closely. Unfortunately, I am not standing on this issue...I am sitting on it...I need my tush to be much smaller...with me it has been a never ending battle that I am ready to end!! Oh, I guess I want an end to my end!

Pondside said...

I choose my face - there is nothing one can do to camouflage a gaunt face - but I also stick to exercise and walking wherever I can in order to keep that little extra behind me in good shape!
I had lunch with a friend last week. Hadn't seen her for years. She had her lips and cheeks done and some sort of dermabrasion. I wanted to weep - she looked ludicrous.

Chicatanyage said...

Having had reconstructive surgery on my nose (due to basal cell carcinoma) last year. I am so grateful it has been successful that most other considerations pale into insignificance at the moment. I certainly would not consider having anything injected into my face.

Jennifer- The Adventuresome Kitchen said...

I think by worrying about our figures and faces we allow our inner insecurity demons to win the day. I personally am sick of those demons yelling at me all the time that I am not good enough. I say I am, and that I intend to age gracefully with a smile on my face. I think that good foundational garments, elegant clothes, a brilliant smile and a sense of humor makes every woman look beautiful- no matter her age or her figure. Look at how glorious Leslie Caron is!

M said...

I don't understand your comment about how you wish everyone would "leave us alone". Who is everyone? I don't feel the least bit pressured to do anything I don't want to do. I'm really puzzled by your remark.

Marsha said...

Where do I stand? Where I sit.

D. A. Wolf said...

"Saving face..."

Tish, you cheeky thing, you!

Like Pseu, I'm content to be a little heavier than I would have been 10 years ago, or even 5. I'm probably 5 or 6 pounds heavier than my wardrobe might like (which, on a teeny tiny woman is a lot)... but as I don't expose my "assets" on a daily basis or to just anyone, I'll take the rounder (more dewy) face over the firmer derrière.

ida said...

My exact thoughts M......I make my own decisions on what I do with my body.Ida

Joni said...

I'm in complete agreement with Jennifer's comment above. Additionally, I would say that self-confidence and contentment play an important role in aging gracefully.

Jean S said...

I am thinking of Annie Lamott's recent post on Facebook, which went viral. Her book is among the top nonfiction best sellers--all of the others are diet books.

Fashion art and other fancies said...

I choose balance;)

Kathy said...

I think at this age, most women are choosing more between their belly and their face, and trying to find the right balance there - an area of my body that I never even thought about until my 50's. I wish it were my rear! Balance is best.

Sue - Over 60 and Over Here! said...

I'm with Kathy on this one! I could do without my middle age spread, however I would rather have a bit of belly fat (that my clothes skim over) than look haggard. You can't disguise a gaunt face!

Murphy said...

I agree with Kathy and Sue that my choice is between a thicker middle/tummy and a gaunt face. Honestly, I would rather accept the tummy, as long as we are talking only a few pounds. I've noticed that when my mother (who will turn 80 this year) loses a few pounds she looks older and a bit sad, but add 5 pounds back and she looks way younger than her age.

Also - for me - it's easier to put a youthful smile on my face if I am not starving all of the time.

vicki archer said...

Unintentionally I sem to have gone for that extra ten!!

Except I don't know if it's working...;) xv

Gramspearls said...

My plastic surgeon told me this story....many years ago, Merv Griffin asked Zsa Zsa Gabor (on his show) why she carried that 'caboose' around with her. As her answer, she pointed to her face. Enough said. Those women didn't have our options and perhaps their way was better and in many cases more natural looking. You can be too skinny...at a certian age (but never too rich).

Warmly, Kathleen

Melissa Hebbard said...

I have done with dieting, it just slowed my metabolism and made me fat.
I had a nasty car accident 5 years ago where I thought i was going to die, and my first 'last' thought was 'bugger those diets, they were a waste'!! Since then I haven't dieted and my weight has been perfectly stable.
Sure, I could be thinner, but would I be any better a person?
I am happy and comfortable as I am, and recently went on a 12 day walking trip in Japan up mountain ranges walking up to 24 km a day. I know I am perfectly healthy and have perfect blood pressure and cholesterol levels, so why should I be made to feel my size 18 body is wicked or ugly or any bit to be ashamed of than a skinny size 0 body!!

Melissa Hebbard said...

I think it is also better to have a natural face than one that is so sunken and drawn from excess dieting and diet smoking that it needs cosmetic surgery, Botox injections, fat sculpting and other artificial enhancements.

Duchesse said...

In North America, in locales where surgery and injections are commonplace, you see a very strange creature: stick legs and arms and a big, plumpish face with pouty lips- what one plastic surgeon calls "big old baby faces". A jarring ,unattractive look. I often find women other women deride as "too fat" beautiful, but really scrawny ones are scary-looking to me.

Also, they don't look like they are having much fun.

Anonymous said...

My last 10 pounds don't seem to be budging anyway ....

xoxox --
Marsi

Anonymous said...

As a femme d'un certain âge I certainly experience the same pressures we all face to look young and attractive as long as possible.

But, where has the desire for dignity, elegance and a true bien dan sa peau gone? We all want to look 16. Thousands of years ago -- before The Flood -- little girls wanted to look elegant and grown up as adults, not like teenagers. That is what I am aiming for!

I intend to stay healthy, smile and ENJOY life! Scrawny looking women do NOT look pretty -- even if they are proud of their low weight!

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