The metaphorical "mailbag" was overflowing this past week, not only Cherie's but You-Know-Who also received her share of e-mails.
They all stared more or less like this: Dear Cherie, Have you seen the article? I thought of you immediately. What do you think?
They were talking about the piece in the New York Times written by Dominique Browning, former editor-in-chief of the late "House & Garden" magazine on the subject of her long, long, long gray hair. In the unlikely possibility you have not read her "argument" (Cherie is using the word here in its Socratic definition), please click below.
Speaking of arguments, Duchesse made interesting points on the subject earlier this week you might like to read and think about her take on the psychology of the debate.
This is what Cherie thinks: To each her own. Frankly, what else can one say?
A woman's hair is such an intimate, integral part of her very essence, mirroring her deepest feelings about herself. A hairstyle can say:
- "I really don't have the time and I really don't care.
- You can see my roots? That's your problem.
- My husband/boyfriend/fill-in-the-blank likes it long.
- Long is easier.
- Short is easier.
- Gray? No that means I'm old.
- Gray? I hear it's the new platinum blonde -- bring it on.
- I was a redhead, I will always be a redhead.
- I had black hair, I will always have black hair.
- I have no idea what my natural color is (and don't care to find out).
- If Demi Moore and all those other celebs can wear their hair to their elbows, why can't I?
- I can't wear my hair to my elbows because I'm not traveling with a hairstylist wherever I go.
- My hair is my shield against the world.
- My hair is just one more chore. Where are the rubber bands?
- I don't care what anyone thinks. Period.
Cherie could go on and on, but bottom line: a woman isher hair. If she goes over budget on cut, care and color she is giving out a message. If she lets the roots show, never conditions, has a cut whenever without the slightest concern for "style" that's another message.
Now, to get back on message. If Dominique Browning likes her long, long gray hair and her mother, sister and others are suggesting she may be mistaken, why do we care? It's her hair.
Out on a limb. . . Cherie thinks gray and white hair can be ravishing. It's a lot of work to keep it shiny and healthy. Then there is the other gray hair route, a trip to the hair salon for one of those short, tight perms -- heaven forbid -- it's easier to take a detour to the tattoo parlor and have "I'm old and don't care" tattooed on your forehead. In the long run it's cheaper.
No more dithering, Cherie, in general thinks long, long, long hair is aging. It pulls the face down, unless it has already been lifted. In France, and You-Know-Who confirms the observation, Cherie has never seen a woman of a certain age with elbow length gray hair -- or any color hair for that matter.
Cherie is not big on compromises, but when they are to her benefit, she's all for them. Between jaw and shoulder can be a flattering compromise. It's all about you.
Pictures from the top: Carmen Dell'Orefice (now there's a woman YKW should have put in her glamour list); 45-year-old model, Kristen McMenamy, (photographed in August Vogue by David Sims); Penelope Fillon and her husband, François, the prime minister of France; Jamie Lee Curtis; Dame Helen Mirren; and Dame Judi Dench.